Relationships don’t have to be such a mystery. The people in them, and their situations are different, but the ways relationships crash are the same, with little variety. And there are solutions for those. Today we have a lot of great relationship research to replace the trial and error practices of old. No more guessing.Just solid practices that work if you work them.
Your relationship system, which is an entity unto itself—a third entity, has its own needs, desires, and goals. It has its own wisdom. In Relationship Systems Coaching, we find out what your relationship wants and s-t-r-e-t-c-h into what is needed to meet those needs. There are very distinct keys we can apply to a relationship to keep it strong and healthy…and to bring it back from that ugly brink….and to find out if it wants to be brought back from that brink.
I made this shortish video to explain a few of the things we look at in Relationship Systems Coaching.
Relationship Systems Coaching (RSC) is different than just about any tool out there. RSC isn’t concerned with who did what to whom. Instead the question is, “What is wanting to happen?” It’s an entirely different question than the ones we usually ask, and that leads to an entirely different answer.
It takes skill to identify what is wanting to happen in your relationship. When you’re IN it, it’s hard to discern who is speaking. Is it you, your partner, the voices in your head, or the relationship itself? RSC cuts through all that, so you don’t waste a bunch of time making wrong turns, exploring dead ends and subjecting yourself to more heartache. Creating a good relationship challenges the best of us, especially at first while we are learning, But remember, if having a good relationship was easy, everyone would have one. A little en-courage-ment goes a long way.
I recommend starting with a Relationship Assessment.
After that, we can move you into pro-active, solution-oriented, and forward-moving, relationship coaching. Weekly if you’re in crisis, moving to every two weeks, once a month and then once every three months as you begin to have more skills on your own. Couples appreciate this progression—both because they still have this safe space to work things out, and also knowing they are building strength and skill to handle things on their own.